Being engaged is not easy. I’m sure you married folks know.
I’m not used to all this attention. It’s so nice that everyone is congratulating us and wishing us well. But with some of those wishes come a whole lot of questions that I just wasn’t prepared for, at all. When’s the date? Where are you going to have it? What type of dress will you wear? And what about your dad?
I can knock out those first three questions easy. But the ‘dad’ question. Oy. The first person to ask me about it, of course was Cowboy and my answer was no one else was asking so I think we are good to assume that everyone knows he will not be there. After he asked, everyone started asking. I was semi-prepared with my answer of, “haven’t spoken to him in over 7 years, why would I start because of my wedding?” It turns out my mother has a strong opinion about that one. Let’s bring on the family drama!
Bless her heart, my mom has no reason to be on the up and up of weddings whereas I have been perusing all sorts of wedding & photographer blogs for awhile now. I don’t necessarily see my wedding chock full of every wedding trend that the wedding industry pushes down a bride’s throat – but there have been some ideas that I think are cute. Explaining them to my mom is not so much. That’s a hurdle I’m trying to get her over.
I’m also trying to decide if I’m going to start a new blog all about this wedding planning journey. I’ve been spying on other blogging brides and think I would like their community input much better than those of The Knot. I am 100% certain, I am not a Knot bride. I also want to challenge myself by not buying anymore wedding magazines. I bought three on Sunday and didn’t take to any of them. I’m going to go get Real Simple’s Wedding book/guide (heck, yeah LilBrownie!) and take it from there. I don’t want to get sucked into the industry telling me what I should or need to have to make my day special. I think Cowboy and I can formulate that ourselves. I expect it to get challenging at some point but I’m going to rely on the real brides out there, the blogging ones and their websites. I want real attainable inspiration.
We did decide to host the wedding in Arizona. This has been a long debate of ours before being engaged. I don’t want to argue over a small thing like location, so I compromised it with Cowboy and my mom. It makes more sense since his family lives there (and footing a bill for them to travel would be way too much) and so does my mom and brother. We’re looking at Phoenix or Sedona; I’m weighing heavily on the Sedona side. I just have a problem asking people to travel and then drive the hour and a half more to get to Sedona. People keep telling me, guests will travel and do whatever to get your wedding. And it’s not like anyone coming by plane wouldn’t have to rent a car anyway, sooo I’m thinking it over. Sedona is much more prettier than Phoenix and it’d be a great escape/getaway for all our guests
…that’s where we’re at.