I did something. I sent Cowboy a picture of the ring I want. No, I did a bad thing. I sent him the link to directly purchase the ring that I want.
We have conversations about this sometimes. It’s natural that he is confused as to what exactly I’d want and like for a piece of jewelry. Please know that I didn’t tell him what I wanted the ring for or hinted in that direction. He could take it as a Birthday or Christmas hint. But if he is smart, as I know he is, he’ll take it as that hint.
I feel bad for him I do – I feel bad for anyone that would have to go ring shopping for me. Or any kind of jewelry. I really don’t like when men buy me jewelry. In my past experiences every piece of jewelry I’ve ever received from a guy is the complete opposite of my taste.
I think its because men go the easy route – if it sparkles, then we should be good to go. If it’s pearls – what girl doesn’t like pearls. And why do they think gold is the direction to lean? No that you won’t see me in sparkly jewelry or gold, we’ll get to the pearls in a moment.
The difference is my sparkles and gold are my fun jewelry. I have oversized cocktail rings that out bling and fabulous gold to secure an outfit. Yes they are fake but they are fun and I’d only wear them when the outfit needs them. Not everyday. I can see how men have taken a cue from my fun jewelry to buy me the real deal. It’s not just the real thing, its also not really cute. I have given back and given away real jewelry given to me as gifts by the men of my past.
Pearls. I’m not a big fan but I love long pearl necklaces. I don’t like pearl bracelets, rings or earrings. Or the short necklace or choker of pearls. Long and dangly is how I like them. I also only like pearls to be the only thing on the string. I don’t like pearls mixed with diamonds or any other stone. Now that you know all that about me.
Cowboy has voiced to me that he is worried that whatever he picks out for me, I won’t like it. I cannot blame him. I feel bad. One, I’m not too comfortable in doing the ring shopping deal with a guy. Two, I didn’t really know how to drop a ring/jewelry hint on a guy either. But since I’m a wee bit, shall we say complex? I have to do something. I don’t want any diamonds on my ring at all. I want a band that is something I would wear everyday. That’s it. One ring on my finger. Done deal.
Remember how I found that one online? Well, that sucker was sold out the next day when I tried to buy it for myself. That’s the next problem. When I see rings I like, I’ll just buy them. Since my last job, my love of the jewels has definitely grown because of it. My jewelry box is chock full of rings that I would gladly put on that finger for the rest of my life. And that’s because I know what I like. But how do we get that to Cowboy? Or any other man that may be put in the situation. You know, just in cases.
Then, two things happened where I knew I had to do something. Cowboy emailed me one question: Do you like pearls? I replied: not really unless they are on a long string. He replied back: what about tiny pearls on a ring? Me: NO. NO. NO. I’m harsh like that. And he never replied back and we haven’t discussed it either.
Then at the wedding while getting my make-up done, the make-up artist had a ring on that finger. A ring that is not your typical looking engagement/wedding ring. I knew who the designer was. I’ve seen the ring plenty o' times. I’ve never bought it before because other jewelry got precedent. But I can say this, from this particular designer, he has only two rings that I love. The one I own, of course and the one on the make up artist’s finger. I gasped when I saw it. Of course I identified the ring and had to explain my knowledge. You know that’s the thing about working for a retailer. You start to recognize merchandise allover the place. TV, movies, fashion shoots. She told me that it was her wedding band and her engagement ring was in her bag because her hands get close to people’s faces and she doesn’t want to risk scratching clients.
Once I saw that ring on her that finger, I knew it. I knew that was my that finger ring. I’d rock it until the day I die. So what to do about that? I was very apprehensive at first to email Cowboy this ring. But I had to. One, the boy thinks tiny pearls on a ring are okay. Two, the ring is a fall item for the designer. Yeah, there’s next fall but come on, now.
I made the email lighthearted, cute and quirky. That was the easiest way in my opinion to hint a gift, right? That’s that. I emailed him the direct link to purchase it. Easy. Peasy. As a back-up plan, I may email my mom the ring too. You know, to cover my bases. For right now, it is very difficult not to suck it in and buy it myself. But I'm learning to let go & give people the chance to buy me things that I will like.
Come Decemeber that ring is mine no matter what.