What is up with lists?
What girl decided that she just had to make a list for her ideal man qualities and from that point on if no man matched it - he could not step up to her? Who was this girl that started this trend? ( I do remember that Real World: Boston cast member had one - hers was like 100 items long. Insane!)
Because I am gosh darn over it. The next friend that pulls out a list and shows me her man qualifications - I'm sorry - I'm taking it and burning it. Done.
I'm sorry if you have one. I'm not neccessarily talking about you - but sheesh - if you have one, please, please comment and explain it to me like a I am a four year old.
I have 2 friends, who I was with last night. Mind, you these are 2 out of 3 of my friends that constantly complain that they are man-less. So, one, you'd think they would be delighted to be matched-up. Not blind date - but group outing match up. No pressure. I wouldn't even let the boys in on it - so, no pressure.
Girl #1 was telling us a story about this guy who liked her. Everything was great - he was funny, good looking, and liked her. A lot. She told us it couldn't go anywhere because he wasn't educated.
As in didn't have a college degree. My mouth is at the floor.
Let me tell you why: he owns his own pilot school.
So where he is not educated, he is very successful and makes a lot of money.
No B.A. equals no play, for her.
Of course, I had to debate this. You know, for the boy's sake. Let me let you in on a secret - the President of my company, never went to college.
I grew up in a household where my parents point blank told us: if you don't want to go to college; don't go, don't waste our money, but do know what your options are if you don't.
It was simple. I went. My brother didn't. He has a girlfriend. I? No man here.
Girl #2 only agreed with Girl #1.
So great guy - not a slacker, not a loser, just doesn't own a degree is not dateable because of it?
I find it hard to swallow.
Then Girl #1 was all saying "We all have our thing and our list. If you don't meet it, you cannot date us"
NOPE. Not me. I don't have a list. Which they argued, I have to have standards, right?
OK - here's another secret: I think I have none. At least for the initial meeting.
I'm the girl you will find at the bar talking to anyone. I don't turn down guys because they are 5'5"; a different race from me; or are slightly bigger.
I just think that I cannot dicriminate because who knows what my 'true one and only' looks like? Honestly, I think I only attract a certain type anyway. So it's not like I'm getting the bums on the street.
Girl #2 was shocked. And since we were at her house - she busted out her list. It only had 12 items on it that men must meet.
I think she should edit it down to one. She's super tall - six feet. So I can understand that she is looking for a tall Mr. Right. Understandable.
But...as for the other 11 items. Crazy! And the fact that she made the list while she was in college boggles me. So, the same man she wanted while in college is the same type she wants now? Unbelievable.
They argued with me up and down that every girl has one. And I know of a few others that carry lists, too.
I guess I'm just one of those people (and scared) that I'll meet the man of my dreams and because he has red hair, I'd pass up the chance?
What do men think about this? Do they have lists, too?