It took me about 4 years to understand that the perfect couple does not exist. Years of comparing what I had to what others, who seemed perfect on the outside, had. It all came down to appearances and not to judge by what you can see. Behind closed doors we all have our 'problems' and nothing is perfect. I say this now because the other day my friend told me that Incredible and I were the perfect couple. Huh? I was courteous and said thanks. I will admit it did have me glowing. I did make out with him as thanks for making us look good. As most couples do, we have a rare tiny disagreement. We get over them. We all fight, so what is there to be shamed of? I have some friends that once you share the details of a fight with your boyfriend; that one friend will always remember the bad that my boyfriend did wrong. ALWAYS. No matter how many future sweet gestures come from him. Nothing will shake that memory from my friend (s). Maybe that's her job to keep me in check? Well...with that I have learned another lesson: not every argument is to be shared with all. Once you open that gate, some people who are waiting on the sidelines for a mishap will cheer and keep that fight as their evidence. (isn't that sad, but they do exist) Exhibit A: They are not perfect. To avoid all that, I will let you know this now. He is not perfect. I am certainly not perfect. And (gasp) we fight. You may not hear about it because I have my reasons and believe that some details should remain ours. There is no need to air our dirty laundry for all my friends. Yes, I may smile, write happy posts about us, and it may all look good. Believe me, it is all good but like everyone else there comes a random argument, people will cry, we will talk for hours, get over it, move on, and that is that. Too bad those friends I speak of, can not.
If we break up, you will know about it, but for everything else I will stay mute.
Thank you, Erin and AP.